We’ve all heard that marriage is hard work. The honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever and when real life sets in, it can be tough. What starts out as a few fights here and there can lead to all-out shouting matches that ultimately end with divorce.
While no two relationships are the same, below are six unhealthy habits that are common contributors to ending a marriage:
- Selfishness. It is natural to want to make everything about us, but if there is no give and take in your relationship, it is going to fail. You have to be willing to put your spouse’s needs first. If a marriage consists of two selfish people, it is not going to be healthy or successful.
- Deciding to Love. When you get married, it is important to understand that love isn’t a feeling, it is a commitment. You are committing to wake up each day and decide to love your spouse. Feelings can come and go, so the decision to love must be made every day.
- Communication Problems. Even though everyone knows communication is essential in a relationship, we don’t always do it properly. We hold on to a small problem and allow it to build until it becomes a major issue. Carrying resentment inside fosters negative thoughts and actions that can soon lead to serious regrets. Part of deciding to love your spouse is agreeing to communicate openly, honestly and fairly about your problems.
- Money Troubles. Fighting over finances is a significant contributor to divorce. Talking about money can be uncomfortable, especially when you don’t have enough. However, getting on the same page regarding your budget and how your finances will be handled is imperative. The sooner you have the “money talk,” the better.
- Ignoring your Health. Once people get married, they often let themselves go. However, attraction is an important part of your marriage. It is important for your spouse to see you take your health seriously.
- Failing to be Fully Present. With advances in technology, people are becoming more addicted to their devices than ever. As a result, it is more difficult to disengage from your job, online games, social media, and other distractions provided by the Internet. These distractions can prevent you from being fully present for your spouse. Missing the small moments in your marriage can lead to bigger problems.
The above are just a few examples of actions that can contribute to the failure of your marriage. If you need assistance with your divorce, contact the Men’s Divorce Law Firm today. Our approach to family law is quite simple: we listen to you; we return your calls promptly; we keep you prepared and informed; we respect your time; we understand your concerns; and, most importantly, we care.